People with disabilities: Guide helps moving to a new home easier

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 By:  Patrick Young 


If you’re disabled, chances are you’ve already got a handle on how to live your life independently. But if moving is on the horizon, you’re entering the same realm of stress as anyone else going through this process. Even so, it’s important to note that there are a few extra precautions — and benefits — to consider as you prepare and execute a move.

Scope out services

Unless you’re living in an assisted living facility, it’s crucial that you check out what type of services— especially in the medical arena — before choosing your next location. Health care aside, consider what’s important to you from a recreational, social and general convenience standpoint before you begin your new life.

Your disability benefits

While you shouldn’t seen any change in your benefits (with Social Security Disability Insurance and SSI) — even if you move to a different state — it may be necessary to inquire further if you’re applying for state supplemental benefits.

Finding the right mover

Before you make a final decision on a mover, ask whether or not they have experience assisting people with disabilities. This can include anything from full packing at your original home to unpacking at your new destination. Be sure to mention to your mover if you requested financial assistance to ensure you have a reduced rate that you can count on for your budget.

Make modifications to new home

There are many considerations to make before randomly choosing a new home. Unless it’s already been inhabited by a disabled individual, you’re going to need to make the necessary changes to ensure your new abode is adaptable to your new life. This includes anything from wheelchair ramps at the entryway to hallways that are at least 42” wide to specialized door knobs in kitchens and bathrooms. It’s crucial that budget be instituted before moving into the proper home (a low-level ranch or bungalow sans stairs is best) before moving in.

Ask for help

While it may feel awkward to ask friends for help, extra assistance can go a long way in terms of physical and mental support. Just don’t wait until the last minute — knowing how much help you have in advance will make it easier to plan the packing and moving process. Make the experience like a fun get-together by providing some food and an energetic playlist.

Utilities services?

Nothing is worse than moving into a new home without proper electricity, gas, heating and air conditioning. This should be done at least one day prior so lack of utilities doesn’t disrupt the move-in process.

Check your new home for safety

Before you move in, make sure that all areas of the home — from the entryway to general living spaces — are safe and free from clutter or any other potential hazards.

Organize as you unpack

Perhaps one of the best things you can do to when unpacking is to organize as you go. This means setting up your home to meet the needs of your schedule, as well as your disability. Make sure necessities are easy to reach and in a safe place.

Moving can be an exciting milestone, but it certainly comes with its fair share of weight. There are many details to consider, so it’s not a bad idea to create a timeline and checklist to alleviate as much stress as possible. By the time you move  into your new home, you’ll be able to get settled faster and begin the next chapter of your life.


Patrick Young created AbleUSA to offer resources to people with disabilities and offer advice about navigating various aspect of life.  Thanks for your contribution, Patrick! 

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Keeping it Simple

By Chris Perna


Loneliness, helplessness, and boredom are silent killers. The “three plagues”, as we call them, exist in all sorts of places, but they are particularly evident wherever elders live. Unfortunately, our society with its ageist tendencies has segregated our elders into nursing homes and other living situations where these three plagues are rampant. The results aren’t pretty. Just close your eyes and think about a lonely elder sitting alone in a quiet room with no human interaction, no purpose, and no reason to live.

Now let’s imagine how it can be different. I bet you’ve never heard of The Eden Alternative. We’ve been written about in many magazines and books over the past 25 years, but usually in the context of nursing home care. Yikes! If you want to make people run the other way, start talking about nursing homes. So, I’m never surprised when someone tells me they’ve never heard of The Eden Alternative.

Now let me tell you what The Eden Alternative is and why you should want to know about it. It is a philosophy based on a very simple premise. If you can eliminate loneliness, helplessness, and boredom from someone’s life, their quality of life and state of well-being go way up. Loneliness, helplessness, and boredom or the “three plagues” as I mentioned earlier are insidious and deadly. They destroy quality of life and well-being and the end result is life just isn’t worth living.

Armed with a philosophy based on 10 simple principles, we teach people how to create a life worth living for elders no matter where they happen to live, in a nursing home or in the family homestead.  We teach about creating a “human habitat” where there is variety and spontaneity to daily life; where plants, animals, and children offer elders the opportunity to give as well as receive care; where elders can experience an ongoing sense of purpose by engaging in activities that they enjoy and find meaningful; and where elders can continue to grow and share their wealth of experience, knowledge and wisdom with their family and neighbors. Aren’t these all things most of us would want in our daily lives no matter our age?

None of this is rocket science. In fact, it is amazingly simple. So why do we get it wrong so much of the time by isolating our elders into living situations that we would never accept? It’s an important question that we should all be asking ourselves and others around us as we witness the silver tsunami happening all around us. I hope you come to the same conclusion as those of us at The Eden Alternative…it can be different!



Chris Perna joined The Eden Alternative, Inc. as its CEO in June, 2010. For the prior ten years Chris was president of MedAmerica Insurance Company, a long-term care insurance company based in Rochester, NY. Transitioning into Eden Alternative from MedAmerica was a natural progression for Chris who had developed expertise in the financing of long term care and wanted to learn more about care delivery.

Since joining The Eden Alternative Chris has led the organization to expand their training and educational offerings and most recently has led the organization’s efforts to grow through large grant projects funded through CMP funds. In another exciting development Chris has led the expansion of the Eden Registry to include providers across the continuum of care including home and community-based service providers as well as providers of residential care for individuals with special needs. Under his leadership The Eden Alternative has developed the most complete package of person-directed tools and trainings available in the market today to support deep organizational culture change across the continuum of care.

Chris was recently profiled as one of “20 To Watch” long term care professionals in Provider Magazine published by AHCA/NCAL.  Chris is a regular speaker and exhibitor at industry events and conferences. He is an advocate for elders as a member of the board of Pioneer Network and as a leader of the Dementia Action Alliance. He is also a board member of Minuteman Health Plan, a cooperative health plan created under the Affordable Care Act, and a former board member of AHIP.


When the Caregiver Is Sicker Than the Loved One

Caregiving is difficult, making it vital that caregivers focus on themselves at times

By Toula Wootan




Have you ever asked someone you know who is caring for a loved one how they are, only to hear the standard response, ”Everything is fine, I’m doing well,” when you know that’s not really true?

To be honest, I understand that response. I’ve been there myself.

I am the primary caregiver for both of my parents. Two years ago, I was in the middle of a caregiving crisis for months. My parents were still living by themselves at home, but mom was hospitalized twice that year for high blood sugar — four times the normal level.

Dad was doing his best to care for her, but the stress of caring for someone with dementia coupled with other illnesses was wearing on him. He had a previous stroke, so I worried about his blood pressure. He called me frequently at work, exasperated, asking for help. Then he fell and hurt his hip. He was hospitalized for several days.

A Moment of Truth

As I was trying my best to give them the care they needed and still meet my work responsibilities, I realized that I, too, was suffering. The stress I was under caused me to have a careless accident; thankfully, the injury was minor. I had also missed several medical appointments of my own that year.

The accident was my wakeup call. I decided to take some of the advice I give caregivers all the time in my role as a radio show host for caregivers to “take care of yourself so that you can take care of your loved one.” (Too bad I had to experience this to realize that my words of encouragement were accurate.)

Caring for someone is an act of love. With the rapid aging of our population, it is a role that will touch all of our lives like no other social issue yet. Because we are all living longer, the caregiving years can last up to 20 years or more. It is not uncommon these days to encounter caregivers in their early 80s still caring for a parent.

The Emotional and Physical Cost of Caregiving

Caring for a family member often takes a tremendous toll on the health and well-being of the caregiver. Research bears out that many caregivers neglect their own health while caring for their loved one. It fact, studies show that caregivers are at a much higher risk than others for diabetes, depression, stroke and other illnesses.

An oft-cited 1999 study found that caregivers have a 63 percent higher mortality rate than non-caregivers, and according to Stanford University, 40 percent of Alzheimer’s caregivers die from stress-related disorders before the patient dies.

Those percentages alarm me. Why is this happening?

Putting Your Needs Second

I believe there are several factors at play. Many caregivers find it hard to carve out time for themselves, to go to their doctor or to other medical appointments. I’ve talked to so many who have told me, “Sometimes it’s just easier to ‘back burner’ my own health; I’ll take better care of myself when I’m no longer caring for my loved one.”

Let’s face it, when you’ve been to eight or nine  medical appointments in a month for your loved one, the idea of going to another, even for yourself, is sometimes just too much. (Yes, I’m guilty.)

When you’re working full time and caring for aging relatives, you ask yourself “How much more time can I take off from work?”

For many, caregiving is a 24/7 role, one that encompasses all aspects of their lives. For those over 70, spousal caregiving is most common. It is this group that often suffers the most.

‘Didn’t Know Where to Start Looking’

I recently talked to a 93-year-old man who had been caring for his wife for five years in their home, following her devastating stroke. He never went anywhere other than to her medical appointments or the grocery store. He had no outside assistance, and didn’t know where to start looking.  

Like many spouses caring for their loved ones, he had illnesses that he was ignoring. It was difficult, but I finally managed to get him to agree to have an outside agency come into the home and support him.  

Sadly, even with this assistance, he died before his wife. I often wonder if the outcome would have been different if he had been able to get help earlier, and find the time to care for himself.

So, how can we help caregivers who are not doing well themselves, yet are determined to stay the course and care for their loved ones no matter what?

Doctors: Listen to the Caregivers

My first recommendation is for doctors to listen to the voice of the caregiver when he or she brings a loved one in. The caregiver can provide valuable information that may not otherwise be apparent or that the patient may not choose to divulge.

Treatment should be a collaborative process, or to put it another way, “patient- and family- centered.” There should be open sharing of information and shared decision-making. The family should be supported.

Physicians and other health care professionals must look beyond the patient, to the caregiver. They should ask how the caregiver is doing and what the caregiver needs. Often, it’s just assumed that the caregiver chose this role and wants to continue in it. An assessment from the caregiver may reveal something entirely different.

Prepare Caregivers Better

Secondly, since most caregivers don’t have time to plan this role, but are thrust into it, it would be great to see hospitals and other health care organizations give proper instruction on how to care for their loved ones. In that way, they could be better prepared.

Lastly, I’d like to see preventative care for caregivers. It could be as simple as classes on how to cope with the stress of being a caregiver, emphasizing self-care and respite. There is an excellent opportunity for private, public and nonprofit institutions to engage in pro-active partnerships to address this need.

To quote Susan Reinhard with AARP Public Policy Institute, “We have to do something to address the needs of caregivers in our nation. If we don’t, we may be headed towards a new public health crisis.”


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Toula Wootan founded the Caregiver Coalition of Northeast Florida in 2008. The Caregiver Coalition is now comprised of 15 nonprofits that combine resources to provide free “Caring for the Caregiver“ conferences, an annual Caregiver Expo, “Caregiver Connections" newsletter, a robust website and more. She works closely with local, state and national organizations and with elder care professionals to continue this important work. Since 2010, Toula’s weekly radio show, “Toula’s Tips for Caregivers,” has offered advice to caregivers. It can be heard on I-Heart: Toula is also the primary caregiver for her parents.




By Linda Abbit 



It accumulates. Over the years, a combination of sentimental objects, things we’ll use one day, the vestiges of a former life and too many years of tax returns, newspaper clippings, little gifts we never used… the list goes on and the house fills up.

There are obvious reasons to declutter. Safety: clutter can trip us up. Efficiency: with declining eyesight, it gets hard to find things we use everyday. Focus: messy environments can make it hard to process information.

But the best reason to declutter comes from “Ms Fix-It” Jennifer Phelps in Houzz, the online resource for home design and organization:  “When your house is full of things from your past, things that only remind you of who you were, you very literally have no room for who you are now and who you are becoming.”

Why Is It So Hard to Do?

Whether you want to pare down the stuff in your home, garage, or even your computer storage, one problem is knowing where to start. The more we have, the more overwhelming it is.

A lot of what we hold on to is loaded with meaning. You might not even like that big ugly vase, but it was a gift from someone you lost touch with and you feel guilty.

For some of us, getting rid of stuff is actually painful. A recent Yale study found for some of us, parts of our brains react the same way to the anticipated loss of valued possessions as they do to the idea of quitting an addiction. A deep and gut-wrenching anxiety sets in.


How to Start Decluttering

Enter Sara Getzkin, President of Hands On! Organizing. As a professional organizer, Getzkin has been been on the TLC show “Hoarding: Buried Alive” five times – soon to be six. In the course of that work, she has come across everything from sex toys and firearms to marijuana brownies! One of Getzkin’s cutest finds was a dance card belonging to a client’s great aunt.

Getzkin has some tips from her ten years of experience as a Professional Organizer:

1. Don’t try to tackle too much at once. Getzkin tells her clients, “Let’s carve out three hours and see what we get done. Then you are going to rest and not even think about this.” Very few people can sustain focus for more than three hours and stopping before you get stuck means you can start again tomorrow feeling positive .

2. To start, Getzkin, recommends preparing three bags or boxes and labeling them Keep, Toss, and Sell/Donate. You might add a fourth box for things that need repairing, mending or dry cleaning, but don’t add more options than that. Put away what’s in your Keep pile at the end of the day and throw out what’s in your Toss pile. (We’ll tell you how to use online resources to sell or donate next week.)

3. Decide what you really use and consider what storage space is available. Be relentless in your decision-making and follow through.

4. Find local consignment stores to sell stuff that’s in great condition (do a Google search for [your city] + consignment stores) or sell your stuff online. Craigslist is a good option for selling locally; eBay is good for more valuable stuff. Stay tuned for a Senior Planet guide to selling and donating online, coming next week.

Paul Foreman, the creator of Mind Maps, gets deep into the decluttering problem with the fantastic map below. “As you move up a gear in de-cluttering you may hit some tough questions and need to battle some gremlins,” he writes. “Are you hanging on to the past? Do you need to move on? Whether you spend 20 years, 2 years, 2 months or 2 minutes the end result is the same – you have to let go. Deep down you know this – holding on, is simply delaying the inevitable.”


Decluttering Challenges

  • Medications and medical apparatus  Medical needs vary as we age:  the medications and dosages change, but all too often we don’t throw away prior drug prescriptions. Time to get rid of them. Find out if your pharmacy has a take-back program; if not, figure that most prescription drugs can be put in the garbage. The FDA advises taking the pills out of the containers and mixing them with coffee grounds or vegetable peelings; then use a marker to black out the label – or scratch it out – before you put the container in the garbage. Some substances, such as narcotic pain relievers, should be flushed; check the label for instructions. Old crutches from 10 years ago? If you need crutches again, you’ll want to get a new and improved pair. Donate the ones you have.
  • Eyeglasses and hearing aids  We keep them because they were expensive purchases. “But they are not doing you any good sitting in the drawer if you’re not wearing them,” says Getzkin. Keep you last pair of glasses for use in an emergency, and recycle or donate the rest.
  • Nostalgic objects In Psychology Today, Jim Davies, Ph.D. recommends photographing some of those keepsakes you’ve been holding on to for years. “I take a picture, and save it in a folder called ‘nostalgia.’ Once I have this picture, I feel better about giving or throwing away the object, because part of why I wanted to save it was because I didn’t want to forget.”
  • Inherited Items  Things we inherit from parents or grandparents, can be hard to part with. “You feel like you are throwing away a person, but you’re not. You’re throwing away a possession of that person. Part of my job is to give you permission to let things go,” Getzkin explains. “In the old days when we didn’t have a lot of storage or big houses, we had one set of china and it was passed down from generation to generation,” she says. Nobody really needs multiple sets.
  • Clothing  On Houzz, Jennifer Phelps tackles a closet edit. Phelps recommends discarding clothes that make you feel bad about yourself: clothes from working days past; clothes you’ve “grown” out of. And she relates an exercise in editing she used with a client: She taped to the wall a picture of a jacket that the woman very much wanted to buy, and then hung each piece of clothing alongside it. Would her client choose this over the jacket? If there was no contest, it went in the giveaway pile.
  • Old gadgets  Jim Davies in Psychology Today refers to the “endowment effect”: he explains that “When we own something, we value it more than we would have been willing to pay for it when we didn’t have it.” In his decluttering, he asks himself if he would be willing to pay what a gadget is worth – say, $20 for his old point-and-shoot. If the answer is no, he sells or donates it.
  • Utensils On Oprah, Peter Walsh came up with the “cardboard box test” for utensils. You could use the same test for those pens and pencils that have been accumulating in cups and jars. Take all the utensils out of the drawer and put them in a cardboard box. For the next month, each time you use one, put it back in the drawer. At the end of the month, whatever you haven’t used, you don’t need.
  • Paperwork  We live in a world of digital files and virtual paperwork. Having a real paper trail is wise under certain circumstances, but we don’t need 30 years of financials. “There are some papers you need to hang on to for life, some you can relinquish after a set amount of time and some papers that you can throw out the same day they arrive” says Getzkin. Your attorney or accountant can tell you which papers fall into the different  categories. Making the effort a few minutes each day to sort and toss incoming paperwork keeps piles from forming. “Eighty percent of what we keep, we’ll never look at again,” Getzkin estimates. “It’s just taking up space in our homes.” Some paperwork can be scanned and saved on your hard drive.


Linda Abbit

Linda Abbit is a California-based freelance writer, editor, and eldercare content specialist.  She has a BS in Education from Adelphi University in New York and an MS in Education from Lesley College Graduate School in Boston.

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